Ceremony Order

The key elements utilized in most Western wedding ceremonies, in the most common order are:
  • Introduction - Opening Words - Invocation
  • Main Body : Interrogation, Presentation
  • Question of Intent
  • Vows
  • Exchange of Rings
  • Closing - Announcement of the Couple

The key elements utilized in most Western wedding ceremonies, in their most common order are:

Introduction, Opening, or Invocation -- The officiant typically announces the purpose of the gathering, indicates the names of the bride and groom, welcomes the guests and solicits them to participate in the ceremony by their presence and, perhaps, by their prayers.

Main Body -- The officiant reflects on the meaning of marriage and the significance of the bride and groom's decision to join together in wedlock.  The officiant may also share more casual remarks about the bride and groom as he or she has come to know them, and about the fitness of their union.  This portion of the ceremony might also include religious or other readings by the officiant or by friends or family who have been asked by the bride and groom to speak.

The Main Body is sometimes divided into the Interrogation and the Presentation (either may come first).  The Interrogation specifically refers to the officiant asking the couple if they come of their own free will to marry; it may also include the officiant asking the potentially show stopping question, "If anyone has just cause why these two may not wed, speak now, or forever hold your peace." (With any luck your ceremony will be peaceful.)  The Presentation is when the bride, or the bride and groom, are presented for marriage by parent or parents (the familiar, "Who gives this woman....").

Declaration / Question of Intent -- The bride and groom individually affirm their commitment to one another, in response to questions posed by the officiant; the response usually takes the form of the infamous "I DO".

Exchange of Vows -- The couple, usually repeating phrases at the officiant's direction, declare their commitment to one another.  In the Western Christian tradition, this is the point at which they are officially married.

Exchange of Rings -- The officiant introduces this part of the ceremony by describing what the rings symbolize.  He/she then asks the best man and maid/matron of honor to hand over the rings. The rings may be blessed.  The couple usually repeats a phrase at the officiant's direction.  In the Western Jewish tradition, this is the point at which they are officially married.

Closing / Announcement of the Couple -- The officiant announces that the couple is officially wed. This may also include a final prayer or benediction, the officiant indicating that the groom may "kiss the bride" and/or the officiant "introducing" the newly married couple to the guests.

This ceremonial order is usually proceeded by a processional, in which the wedding parties enter the ceremonial location, and is followed by a recessional, by which they exit.

Resource:  WeddingChannel.com
Carolyn Burke | Officiant | Coordinator 314.821.4844

Wedding Processional

Although I specialize in short, sweet and simple ceremonies in the St Louis MO and Metro East IL area, that does not mean that the WEDDING PARTY is simple too.  I love to perform at a large wedding as long as the couple agrees that the ceremony remains SIMPLE (less than 20 minutes). Many times the number of guests is small even though there is a large wedding party (grandparents, parents, groomsmen, bridesmaids, ring bearer, flower girl, even a train bearer).

There is no way to make "simple" out of a large wedding party of 6+ bridesmaids and 6+ groomsmen, two ring bearers and a baby in a stroller as the flower girl!

Couples who decide to have a large wedding party need to have in place the order they want to have their bridesmaids and groomsmen to walk down the aisle. When the ceremony is about to begin and the bride and groom are still deciding is NOT the time. Getting 16+ people to stop talking and listen is no easy task. Having a rehearsal is helpful, but it isn't necessary for a simple wedding ceremony. I feel IT IS NECESSARY to have a rehearsal if you have a large wedding party.

Take a moment to write down and decide if you are having grandparents, parents, wedding party, ring bearers, sign holders and flower girls. Don't stress out 5 minutes before the ceremony wondering who should walk with whom and in what order.

At the wedding I performed, we were lucky enough to have an empty room to place everyone in so we could talk loudly and quickly go over what is about to happen. That is not always the case.

Carolyn Burke | Officiant | Coordinator 314.821.4844

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